DARE to Grow - 5 Principles of Personal Transformation

June 1, 2009

In order to grow and transform yourself/your team/your business, remember the Five Principles of Transformation.  

“Change Is Inevitable but Growth and Progress Are Not”  

 1. Appreciate and Celebrate Your Successes  

If you’re like most people, you find it much easier to remember the bad times than the good. We tend to be quick to criticize, slow to praise - especially of ourselves. The world seems consumed with bad news - newspapers, TV.  

Take 5 minutes to think of times you were proud of yourself, did something well or put a problem behind you.  Questions to ask yourself:  How much money did you earn? Did you save any? Are you proud of something you did for your child or a friend? Have you been keeping fit?  What were some great moments at work, in your business, with your clients?   

As you read through your list, give yourself a pat on the back.  Unless you do this from time to time, you’ll end up feeling like a car that’s run out of fuel. 

2. Learn Your Lessons

By examining both what worked and what didn’t work, you can find the lessons that you need to learn. You are your own best teacher, the best source of your own wisdom. 

We tend to look at learning lessons from our mistakes and failings, but it is just as important to learn from our successes!  To catch ourselves doing things right and incorporating that success into our future. 

What can you learn from the successes you just listed?  What strengths do they reveal that you should reinforce, get better at? What was your secret?  What skills do you have that you can capitalize on?  Once you’ve finished your list, look back over it and select the three lessons which would make the most difference to you.  

Select short, memorable, POSITIVE statement that can act as guidelines or rules for you to create the successes and meet the challenges.  For example:  “Be Patient and Listen”, “Be Flexible”, “Trust the Process”, “Follow Up, Follow Up, Follow Up” 

3. Shift Your Limiting Beliefs and Assumptions to Develop Your New Paradigm or Vision

Unless we wake up to the negative beliefs and assumptions we have about ourselves and what’s possible, we can live in a small box that seriously limits what’s possible for us/our business. When we aren’t getting the results we want, we often go back and change our actions - but if the results still don’t happen, it is probably because there is a strong belief controlling your actions. 

The first step in discovering how you limit yourself is to ask what you DOING that holds you back. 

What are your limiting actions? Take a minute to jot down any that come to mind:  What are you doing that holds you back from achieving the results you want?  

Your actions are controlled by what you assume to be true - what the voice in your head is telling you about your limitations.  Really tell yourself the truth about this!  Does someone know better than you?  Do you believe you’re too old? Don’t know enough? Don’t have enough education? 

Your limiting belief is what do say to yourself and believe about yourself that ends up being the reason for not producing the desired results. On paper, complete the following sentence …. “I’d love to________ but I can’t because I’m _____________.  What are the words in the second blank?  This is an example of a limiting assumption of paradigm.

Now decide that the results are most important than the reasons.  Dare to become “unreasonable” with yourself.  Now write a new paradigm.  Make sure it meets the following criteria -   It must be: Positive, Personal, Present Tense, Powerfully and Simply Stated, Pointing to an Exciting Future For You.  Some examples are: 1) I’m able to go beyond my limitations.  2) Money is no longer a big problem for me.  3) I empower myself to have what I want and need.  4) Whatever I put my mind to, I achieve.  5) I have the talent to succeed.  

4. Live Your Values

We don’t have to look too far in our world to see public examples of high profile people who aren’t living their values, who aren’t being true to the person they want to be.  It’s so easy to criticize them because the gap between their behavior and their values is so obvious.  But while it’s important to hold our public figures and leaders accountable, a better use of our time and energy is to examine our own lives in line with what we believe and the kind of person we want to be.  

Make a list of the values you cherish or wish to abide by.  Prioritize them.  Be clear about what makes you feel good about yourself.  What values does that represent?  Consciously and actively make these more important than the common negative drives such as trying to look good, gaining sympathy, survival about money. 

Our personal values provide the strongest motivation for change and for achieving the goals we most want to achieve. Common on my clients’ lists are values are: Integrity.  Being True to Yourself.  Keeping Your Word.  Honesty. Family First.  Being a Loving Person.  Making a Difference. 

5. Set and Focus on Goals

Identify what’s most important to you and do it.  Allow your values to shape your goals. If there are “should” goals and you really want to achieve them, turn them into “want to” goals.  If there are “should” goals that have been around too long and you no longer want to do, get rid of them.  Stop “shoulding” yourself.

Write down a list of WHAT you want to achieve in the different areas of your life.  Put your attention on these goals rather than the problems and issues in your life.  Turn these problems and issues into goals that lead you unward the RESULT you want.  Choose what’s most important to you, set a goal and then do them, no matter what.  

Set and Focus on ” SMART” Goals

  • Simple
  • Measurable
  • Attainable
  • Relevant
  • Time-Focused  

Remember “Change Is Inevitable but Growth and Progress Are Not” .  DARE Yourself to Grow, Your Life is Worth it.  You are worth it.

Posted by Francine | Filed Under Blog, Dare to Soar in Business 

Comments

2 Responses to “DARE to Grow - 5 Principles of Personal Transformation”

  1. Melissa Galt on June 10th, 2009 8:30 am

    Francine,

    Your post dovetails well with my Celebrate Your Life! http://www.theartofcelebrating.com. Life really is lived in the moments, not the years and the sooner we all realize this and embrace each moment to its fullest our lives will become richer and empowered.

    Thanks for sharing always!
    Melissa

  2. Francine on June 10th, 2009 9:24 pm

    Hi Melissa,
    Nice to see you here. Thank you for dropping by. Let’s connect soon.
    Love
    Francine

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